It is impossible to feel love and fear at the same time, we have to choose. It is interesting to note that sometimes we feel peaceful and loving, and other times we feel alone and fearful, when our basic circumstances remain unchanged. A discussion of how to move out of upset and fear. Step one: We have to notice that we are in ego. A pause, self-awareness, a compassionate witness. Step two: Realize that I have created this, I have chosen fear, and love is always available to me. I can change my mind about this, and recognize I am perfect love. The allure of victimhood is addressed, driven by our inner desire to be seen as innocent and blameless, while the cost is the loss of our power. Other topics touched on include racism, child molestation, white supremacy, and the non-violent resistance of Ghandi and King. Love, and letting go of defending and attacking, undoes the ego. What is real can not be threatened.